15th December 2024 | Become Your Own Matchmaker

Meeting Purpose

To provide insights on matchmaking and empower participants to become their own matchmakers in their journey to find love.

Key Takeaways

  • Finding love is a journey, not a race; every interaction contributes to personal growth
  • Focus on core values and characteristics beyond superficial traits when seeking a partner
  • Embrace imperfections and be open-minded; avoid being too rigid with preferences
  • Pacing is crucial in new relationships to allow authentic connections to develop naturally

Topics

  • Matchmaking Approach

Sarah’s background: Started with meetup events, evolved to paid singles events
Offline Valentine event: Structured matchmaking with 36 questions for deep connections
Tools provided: Fun facts, match cards, and icebreakers to facilitate conversations
Focus on connecting like-minded individuals with shared values and interests

  • Defining Ideal Partner Criteria

Move beyond superficial traits (age, height, location) to focus on core values
Be aware of deal-breakers but remain open to growth and learning
Create a list of 20 important qualities in an ideal match
Recognise that preferences may evolve as you meet more people and gain experience

  • Pitfalls in Matchmaking

Perfect on paper doesn’t guarantee instant chemistry (e.g., masculine/feminine energy mismatch – this is something you work on)
Rushing into relationships too quickly can lead to burnout
First impressions may be affected by nervousness; give connections time to develop
Be willing to reflect on and take responsibility for your part in connections

  • Personal Growth Through Dating

Each interaction offers lessons, whether inspiring or challenging
Use experiences to refine understanding of what you want in a partner
Develop self-awareness and work on personal growth to become a better partner
Embrace discomfort as an opportunity for growth and learning

Next Steps

  • Participants to set a realistic, slightly challenging goal for the next 2-3 weeks
  • Sarah to add more virtual events, including a 2025 goal-setting session
  • New program focusing on meeting people organically offline to be developed
  • Participants encouraged to explore Mojo Mingle website for resources and upcoming events