6th April 2025 | Dating Superpowers
Summary
| Group Coaching Calls and Grounding Exercise | |
| In the meeting, Sarah welcomed everyone and discussed the upcoming group coaching calls, which will now occur four times a month. She also mentioned the availability of resources in the dashboard and the use of the private Facebook group for ongoing support. Sarah then led a grounding exercise and encouraged participants to share their experiences. Jim and JB both reported feeling more relaxed after the exercise. Jim also shared his recent decision to join a new coaching offer and take some time off work for better balance. | |
| Dating Event Strategies and Meetup Tips | |
| JB shares his experiences with dating events, including participating in “table for 6” and “time left” sessions. He has also started a Meetup group for movie nights, which has resulted in a repeat visitor and a date. Sarah offers to make JB an event organiser on her Meetup group to expand his reach. Aaron discusses his progress in approaching people at Thursday events, noting improved confidence but struggling with closing and securing phone numbers. Sarah advises Aaron to focus on developing rapport and finding shared interests before suggesting a meetup, emphasising the importance of tailoring invitations to the other person’s interests. | |
| Building Rapport and Exchanging Contacts | |
| Aaron and Sarah discussed strategies for building rapport and exchanging contact details with others. Sarah emphasised the importance of developing a connection before asking for contact information, suggesting that this would make the process easier and more natural. Aaron expressed concerns about relying on social media and suggested focusing on phone numbers instead. Sarah agreed and suggested making a joke about going “old school” to exchange numbers. They also discussed the importance of practicing these strategies and not worrying too much about the closing. | |
| Improving Social Interactions and Event Planning | |
| Sarah discusses strategies for improving social interactions and event planning. She advises Aaron to focus on building rapport and asking curious questions when approaching people. Sarah shares her experience organising a successful photo walk event, emphasising the importance of promoting through multiple channels and connecting with attendees beforehand. JB mentions working on resilience and not taking it personally when people don’t show up to events. The group discusses setting goals, with Jim planning to start a new program with Sarah, and Aaron considering trying dance classes to meet new people. Sarah reminds everyone of upcoming call schedules and introduces a discussion about dating superpowers. | |
| Exploring Dating Personas and Shadow Traits | |
| Sarah introduces the concept of four basic dating personas, each with superpowers and shadow traits. She explains that shadow traits are negative behaviours that create disconnection with others. The group discusses the “Captain” persona, which is characterised by confidence, leadership, directness, goal-orientation, and resilience. Sarah describes both the positive aspects and potential shadow traits of these characteristics. Some participants, including Aaron, relate to certain traits and their shadow aspects. Sarah encourages everyone to note which traits resonate with them, emphasising that people typically have characteristics from all four personas. | |
| Archetypes and Balancing Relationships | |
| In the meeting, Sarah discussed the different archetypes and their traits, focusing on the ‘magnet’, ‘anchor’, and ‘architect’. She emphasised the importance of understanding one’s strengths and weaknesses to create a balanced relationship. Sarah also addressed Jim’s question about changing these traits, suggesting that once one is aware of their shadows, they can modify their behaviours to practice self-care and prioritise their well-being. The discussion concluded with Jim acknowledging the importance of balance in relationships. | |
| Balancing Energies in Relationships | |
| Sarah discusses implementing personal development strategies, including blocking off time for self-care on her calendar. The group explores the concept of masculine and feminine energies in relationships, particularly in planning dates. They discuss the importance of balancing these energies and taking turns in planning. Aaron shares his perspective on being attentive to details in relationships and his struggle with spontaneity. The session concludes with Sarah encouraging participants to share their goals in the Facebook group and submit questions for the next meeting. | |